On Setting the Wedding Date

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Your wedding day may well be the most important date you ever choose. I don’t know about you, but deciding on our wedding date was anything but easy! I know some couples get engaged and have a date set (or at least a date range) within a few days!!

Here’s what helped us decided:

  • Paying for the wedding – Before we could even begin thinking about dates, we needed to talk about money. Neither of our parents are contributing, which means it’s all on us. We also had bought our house less than a year before getting engaged and it’s a fixer-upper. Most of our saved money was going into that. So we picked a date 3 YEARS out. Click here to read more about why we chose to have a long engagement.
  • The time of year/season – Ideally, I would have loved a winter wedding in all of it’s frozen snowy goodness. Winter has always been my favorite season. It is romantic and pretty and you can bundle up. But then we got to thinking. We live in Buffalo, NY. First, much of J’s family lives in Arizona, so they might not even have the proper clothing to come up in the dead of winter. Second, there’s always a chance we’ll have a milder, less snowy winter. But there’s an even better chance that we’ll have a super snowy, cold, lake-effect storm filled winter. We didn’t want my wish for a snowy wedding to come true only for the roads to be impassible, the power knocked out, flights to be cancelled, and our guests to be either stranded or unable to get in. Fall is my second favorite season and J’s favorite, and October may well be our favorite fall month. So we chose October.
  • The day of the week – J and I are pretty traditional when it comes to wanting a weekend wedding. We knew 100% it had to be a Friday, Saturday, or Sunday. But which to choose? Friday and Sunday are typically quite a bit cheaper than a Saturday night. Sunday meant our guests might stress about work the next day. Friday meant guests would have to take the day off or leave work early. Guests coming from out of town would have to take Thursday as well to get in before the wedding. As much as it would have been nice to save by not booking a Saturday, we decided to pay the extra amount to accommodate guests and the bridal party.
  • As for the specific date we chose, it’s simple! 13 is my favorite number, it just happened to fall on a Saturday, and it was available at our reception venue (which was the first place we booked because at the time we had no idea where to hold the ceremony!).

What things did you have to think about before choosing your wedding date?? Let me know in the comments!

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