When Life Hands Your Lemons

Staying positive when life is rough, when life hands lemons


You might be wondering how my wedding dress saving is going. The short answer: it was going well.

Here’s the long answer.

As I wrote in the past, I had decided to save up money from scratch to put down for my wedding dress deposit. We’ve already got a tight wedding budget, and I didn’t want to settle on a mediocre dress because I had no wiggle room in the budget.

I was on track to have the money (and more even) saved by June, and I was ready to book my dress appointment for the same month or July.

I was SO excited.

And then there was a family issue. I really don’t want to get into the details right now, but basically a close family member suddenly found him/herself in need of a pretty good sum of money, and they needed it asap.

I’m not the kind of person who lends money, especially large sums of it. But given the situation and my relationship with the person, I gave them what they needed. Most of what had been put aside for the wedding dress (this is the part where you tell me I should have an “emergency fund.” I do have an emergency fund, but it’s for myself/my fiance, not for giving to other people).

I don’t regret giving the money for an instant.

But now the dress fund is starting basically from scratch. I don’t know when I’ll be able to buy the dress. I know my family member will pay me back, but not for a while.

I’m not trying to sulk. I know there are way worse things that can happen to people, and a dress isn’t super important. But I needed an outlet. I’m no longer super excited to buy the dress. I don’t even want to look at pictures or think about wedding stuff right now.

All I can do is drink some lemonade, clean some more houses, and refill that money jar.

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